The Village Wedding Day
Trip Start Oct 15, 2009
28Trip End Dec 15, 2013
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Noah went to a party in the village last night. He says that the family slaughtered and cooked 2 cows in honor of Sumalai (Aor) and for the wedding. Many friends of Sumalai's family helped to prepare food.
Sumalai's younger brother, Em, drove us to the village
Next Noah had to convince Aor's family that he was worthy of their daughter. The purpose of the dowry is to prove that the groom is financially able to support his bride. And in modern times, the dowry is often returned to the young couple, along with the money received from wedding guests, to help them begin their new lives together. That's a good thing for one young groom I happen to know.
At Aor's parents' home there were ceremonial ribbons representing doors and Noah had to buy his way in to his bride with even more money. We had a warm welcome from Jong, Aor's Mom and Wat, her Dad, and we met her grandparents and many family members. We were seated on mats on the floor for an engagement ceremony and wedding ceremony. The ceremony was performed by a respected village elder chosen to bestow good luck upon the couple and union. This lovely gentle man was in fact over 90 years old, and, he marrried Sumalai's parents some 30 + years ago.
Sumalai makes an absolutely breathtaking bride and Noah and interesting handsome "Thai-western" groom. and Sumalai look so happy together! We totally enjoyed the traditional Thai wedding ceremony. Not unlike our Jewish customs, the Thai ceremony is rich with ritual.
I have written and printed a program explaining the Thai wedding ceremony, to use at the wedding in Koh Samet on Sunday
The ceremonies lasted about 1 and 1/2 hours. Afterwards there was food and drink in a tent in the yard. We saw evidence of a big bash from the night before. Another one is planned for this afternoon and evening. The village wedding begins with the preparation and the party goes on and on. Noah did not encourage us to stay for the "drinking and karaoke." That's just as well since we will leave to fly to Bangkok and drive to Ko Samet in the morning.
We walked through part of the village to Aor's Grandfather and Grandmother's house. We also went to a nearby village and met Aor's other grandfather, her father's father. He is in his late 80's and still lives by himself with his son and daughter-in-law nearby.
We are grateful to Sumalai's lovely family for their warm hospitality,
and of course, for having accepted Noah into their family, loving and caring for him for many years already.
Congratulations Noah and Sumalai! One wedding down, one to go!