Beauty that Matters
Trip Start Feb 08, 2011
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So first, girls may not always show it, but the majority (I say the majority, because some girls are different and I do not want to appear narrow-minded) really really value the males around them, and the opinions they have. Whether it be a boyfriend, brother, best friend, father and etc. And I don't know if you guys are aware of this, but every single thing you say or do is likely to be remembered by that girl for the rest of her life. Some people have sometimes attacked me for my low self-esteem, saying that it's a sign of bad upbringing etc. But low self-esteem, especially in girls, is a very wide spread issue. They may hide it fairly well, but in the end, when you get down to the nitty gritty, most girls are unsure and insecure in themselves. When the males in a girls life, comment negatively about her weight or looks, even in a joking way, they generally take it to heart, and trust me - it hurts. So obviously, one of the main things that a girl wants, is to be accepted for who she is and what she looks like. A father's gentle and caring 'You look amazing' is actually really important to a girl. A brother complimenting her on the way she looks actually means a lot, even though they may not show it. When my older brother was living at home, I would have given anything to have him tell me I looked great. A best guy friends or a boy friends sincere compliment means so much. So this leads into the next bit..
Have you ever noticed how that it means more to a girl, for her to be called beautiful? Rather than hot, sexy, cute, attractive etc etc? The funny/interesting thing is, that most guys are quick to refer to a girl as the latter terms, but not the first one. Beautiful is deemed that little bit more special than the others. When some guys were asked why this is, they said that after getting to know a girl and seeing who she was and what she was like, they could say she was beautiful for the traits they admired in her. The interesting thing is, when a guy and a girl first meet, it is rare for the guy to call her beautiful. Rather it would be hot or cute or attractive. Then after a while of knowing her, it is more likely for the guy to refer to her as beautiful. There's that 'inner beauty' that is attached to the term 'beautiful'. I find this rather interesting, as even the 'non-religious' people in our society recognise that. And this is also supported in the Bible...
1 Peter 3:3-4 says "Your beauty should not come from outward adornment, such as elaborate hairstyles and the wearing of gold jewelry or fine clothes. Rather, it should be that of your inner self, the unfading beauty of a gentle and quiet spirit, which is of great worth in God’s sight. (NIV)" God works from the inside out.. Beauty is from the inside out.. I mean come on, we all know that extremely attractive girl, who is perfectly horrible! I doubt you would hear a guy describe her as beautiful - perhaps hot etc, but not beautiful. Proverbs 31:30 says "Charm is deceitful, and beauty is passing; but a woman who fears the LORD she shall be praised. (KJV)" Outward beauty will fade... Inner beauty will flourish and continue to grow... Inner beauty is what truly matters.
Most guys seem to recognise that there is something extra special attached to a girl who is beautiful. And girls are well aware of that too. Having a guy tell her she's hot or cute or sexy, often just makes a girl feel like she's on display. Being told she's beautiful makes a girl feel like she's worth something. So I have two points...
Firstly, guys, be careful how you treat the girls in your life. Your words can hurt, cause they honestly are taken to heart. If you think a girl is beautiful, even just as a friend or sister etc, tell her! You'll make her day.
Secondly girls, your outward appearance is not important! Sure take care of yourself and make sure you're presentable etc. But don't fuss so much! It's your inner beauty you should worry about. This applies to you, whether you're a Christian or not. Your personality is what you will be remembered for in the end. Outward beauty is passing, inner beauty is forever.
Oh actually a third one.. For everyone.. God loves you all and accepts you just the way you are. He thinks you are each beautiful/handsome and unique. He sent His Son to die for you. You never need to doubt God - He loves you and if you're not already, He longs for you to be His child.
So yeah, that's about it. I could write so much more, but there's so much to write about it, that I don't think it would make sense.. When my brain gets overloaded it gets like that - I can't get things out without it sounding all mixed up etc.. :) But yeah. :D