Lighthouse of Enlightenment
Trip Start Sep 03, 2010
26Trip End Oct 05, 2010
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I felt those feelings inside my heart as I rode slowly up the lighthouse road. The thought of couples beginning their shared lives together permeated my heart. I wondered about my own mother and father as they took their vows. I have never seen any photographs of that day.
Robyn gave me insight into my dad’s life. He and his father were hurt and emotionally crippled by the death of my father’s mother
My father resented his own father for the loss of his mother. Ironically my paternal grand-father resented Betty for it as well. James Louis Day went into a numbing way of life. Drinking and not loving was his way of coping with the loss. His son, James Louis Day, Jr. learned how to be a father through living with an emotionally injured father.
My mother lost her mother in the birthing of her sibling also. When my crippled Aunt Claudia was born, my maternal grandmother died. My mother never recovered from her six year old tragedy.
The two of them, my parents, had a common suffering. They bonded on the foundation of loss. They came together on the bed-rock of pain. This came to me as I went back in time to see what brought these two together. The fundamental need to raise children was shared by both. Elements such as the lack of family unit examples and family pressures led to their destruction as a family
I went back to Bonnie sat and cried for people who misunderstand themselves and the ones they love. I felt enlightened by the thought of what actually had occurred to two people who bonded, if only briefly. I am the fruit of that union.